Mister and I decided that we could make it work if I stayed home from work to be with Lentil. For as long as I can remember I've wanted to stay home with my children, a position that surprised (shocked!) several friends who thought my feminist ways precluded being a stay at home mother.
I explain it this way: teaching takes a lot of emotional energy. For some teachers perhaps more than for others. Truthfully, I want to stay home with my kids. I want to feed them. I want to take them to the park. I'd like to be at home when they are in elementary school, at least in the second half of the day when they are home. I'd like to drop them off at dance class or friend's homes or wherever (note: wherever is less random then it appears).
It is an indulgence, though, which is why I often talk about teaching and parenting not mixing for me. The Northwest Mommy also used the "I" word when she emailed me back about birthdays, crafting, and staying at home. She has a one-year-old and almost-four-year-old. The Northwest Mommy was a social worker, another high-emotional-impact profession. Staying at home is great for the kids, but in some ways, it's more for the mothers (though we say it's for the kids). We get the benefit of watching them grow and change. (Lentil, for example, is frustrated by her inability to flip from front to back. She's amazing to watch as she scoots and tries to get there. Right now, she's sleeping on her side. Yikes.)
I already feel oddly disconnected from some of my friends because I don't have the point of references we had before. Also, I am aware that there are those who may think it unnecessary or backwards that I stay home. But I've been surprised by home many people say good for you when I tell them I'm staying home. I suspect that in this very busy world of ours, carving out space for your family in which that becomes your full focus is seen not as indulgent but maybe even a little bit smart.
I haven't worked out timing issues (Lentil's naps), but I have a couple of out of the house things that I'll work on while I'm here.
In the meantime, I have some scones to bake.